There are few things which usually lead to depression after a break up. Common among them are:
1. Thoughts. When you think of what used to happen in private between the two of you. Then you think about it, he/she is going to do those ‘goodies’ with someone else.
2. Shame. When you imagine what people will say. You remember all the photos on social media, countless road trips, the admirations you got from friends, relatives, other people you don’t even know etc. Suddenly, what will they say?
3. Shuttered dreams. This is a person you were building your life around. You have or wanted to have kids, businesses, properties and all. Now you have started all over, alone or with a completely new person.
4. Questions. Why did they come into your life? Why did they leave? What wrong did you do? Why did they do what they did? Did they even value you? Is there something wrong with you? Maybe a family curse or bad luck? You get all sorts of questions.
But, remember this, you are not the only one in that situation and you will not be the last one. All you have to do is make a decision. You can choose to move on or go back to them and try all you can to work things out, if chances are there.
If you choose to move on, don’t look back. Move on. Make room for others. If its depressing, then don’t be back and forth. Don’t miss them today and feel like stabbing them tomorrow. Just move on and delete all your memories with them. Think of them as a bridge to something else that will stay forever.
If you chose to go back and work things out, ask yourself if you will be able to live with whatever happened that led to the point of break up. Ask yourself what will happen if such things happen again, because they are likely to happen again. Above all, know their stand. Do they want to work things out or they have decided to move on?
In the end, the best medicine is time. It heals and you will heal. Accept what happened. Forgive what happened. Forget what happened.